Southern belles are still around in Chilton

By Julie Davis

There is just something special about young ladies and women raised in the south and especially in Chilton County.

Each week The Clanton Advertiser is adorned by lovely Chilton County ladies, who win pageants, play a sport for their high school, and are members of local organizations, mothers and leaders.

I don’t know if it is the glowing skin from years in the sun at the river or just the extra special care parents give their daughters, like the care a peach farmer gives to his prize winning peaches, that makes a southern belle.

Maybe it’s in the water. Whatever it is, I think it’s a dying way of life or idea, and it is crucial that we as southerners preserve the true essence of a great southern woman that can only truly be found right here in our great county.

Although the South has risen, fallen and been harshly criticized, women of all ethnic backgrounds and races still possess a certain charm and presence in a room unlike a lady from anywhere else.

It’s not just a southern drawl either. My grandmother is a true lady and I hope I can continue through life as gracefully as she has, leaving a good impression on everyone I come across. I am sure it won’t be easy, because I am awfully outspoken.

She always puts other people before herself, but manages to make it look effortless. I have never seen my grandmother loose her temper with anyone, and I have never heard her say an unkind word about anyone.

The other thing that amazes me is that she always looks beautiful and pulled together no matter what she is doing.

My mother had a great example growing up and so have I, in her.

It’s encouraging to see other local beauties every week in our paper and know that such beautiful wonders are being cultivated everyday right here in front of our eyes, and that we all get to witness it.

I bet future women politicians will bless our county and future teachers and leaders will set a southern style into motion for all who come through Chilton’s doors.

For women to continue to be southern belles, it is important that southern men continue to have chivalry. I have often stopped a date for trying to open my doors, because I am totally capable of doing it myself, but at least they offered.

A wise woman, my mother, told me once that if a young man’s parents taught him to do those things, that they had done a good job raising him and I should just let him, even if I am capable of doing it myself.

It is little lessons like these that drive you nuts as an adolescent, but that you come to appreciate the older you get. I am fortunate to come from a long line of southern ladies, but as a pioneer for equality I still know that I can have a job, raise a family, have hobbies and still be a southern belle.

It is not always what you do, but how you do it.

I plan on continuing to hunt, fish and do things that have in the past been more of a man’s sport, but I also plan on being a lady while I am at it! I am looking forward to seeing the young southern belles of Chilton County paving the way for women everywhere in a style that could only be southern.

 

 

 

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